For professional speakers, achieving your dreams of finding your audiences and getting to speak to them around the world means a large part of the time you’re going to be living out of a suitcase, on the road. With that, comes burnout. And yet, it’s a hard thing to admit to, since this is the life you dreamed of, right?
So let’s just admit, between ourselves, going no further, that getting the life you wanted means risking that burnout, at least occasionally. How do you handle it? Following are nine ways to cope with burnout and keep your dreams from becoming a nightmare. They won’t all work for you, but I hope that at least some can keep the smile on your face and the enthusiasm for the life you’ve chosen high.
1.Monitor yourself for the warning signs. Does the sight of a suitcase make you twitch? Do you sigh with relief when you arrive home even though what greets you is a bunch of dead houseplants? More seriously, do you occasionally get lonely, or even depressed, at the thought of another week of travel? Monitor yourself closely for any signs of emotional wear and tear and take action before you’re beyond help.
2.Establish strong rituals of renewal. Everybody has different ways to re-charge. Know what yours are (don’t have any? – make some up right now!) and practice them religiously. Is it walking in the woods? Singing in the local choir? Or just pizza and TV on the sofa? I knew one high-flier for whom snowboarding was the only possible release. Problem was the only time he could count on for renewal was August every year. So he flew to the Peruvian Andes every August, where the snows are perennial, and snowboarded there. Problem solved. Take your need to recharge just as seriously and figure out how to get it done.
3.Set clear limits on your work year. As crazy as it sounds, it’s a bad idea to say yes to every speaking gig that comes your way. It’s a great idea to plan in advance how many speaking gigs you’re going to give each year, and create your personal ecosystem around it. That way, you’ll know when you’ve succeeded. You’ll know what lifestyle you can afford. And you’ll know how many pro bono speeches you can afford to give, BTW. Most important, you’ll know when you’re done.
4.Celebrate milestones. Your personal milestones might not mean much to someone else – getting that speaking gig at your alma mater – or they might – giving a TED talk – but either way they are important to you. Celebrate them. It’s your job to stop and take a moment; most of the time no one else is going to remind you to do so. And by the time you move on, it’s too late.
5.Keep learning, both your subject and the speaking craft. Speakers often ask me how long they can keep giving a speech – once, one year, three years, forever? My standard answer is more than once and less than forever. Speeches get old, topics change, knowledge advances, and you need to stay au courant. And, of course, it depends on the topic. We used to be able to depend on a three-year lifespan for a speech. Now, in many topics, you’re lucky if you get a year. Stay re-charged by staying up to speed. And practice your craft, too. You’ll keep engaged as long as you’re learning.
6.Create control. One of the big creators of burnout is a feeling of no control. So find ways to control your working life. It’s hard as a speaker, when every day at work is potentially different, but if you set some rules and parameters, you can keep a lid on things. Write your contracts so that you get whatever it is that you need – hotel rooms, cars, rehearsals, A/V, the M&Ms, whatever – done in the way that you find positive, not annoying. Keep an exercise routine. Eat healthy foods; you know the drill.
7.Get in the habit of checking in on yourself – and talking about how you feel. In addition to the work and physical hygiene above, establish good mental health hygiene as well. Talk about how you feel to your loved ones. Don’t suck it up all the time – let the people along the way know both the good and the not-so-good. This suggestion is not an invitation to become a diva – far from it. Being honest about how you’re feeling is a relief in the long run for the people around you.
8.Create a community of fellow travelers – and dish to them. Have a go-to group of at least one other person who knows what you’re going through because they’re doing the same thing, and connect regularly about the ups and downs of the road. Only another speaker can truly understand what it’s like to give a talk your all, ask for questions, and face a roomful of silence. You need to share those moments – and the great ones too – with someone who’s been in the same place.
9.Finally, don’t take the whole speaking thing too seriously. A speech should be more like a flower than a tomb; it’s a moment’s monument, not a lifetime commitment or the last thing you’ll ever do. So don’t take things too seriously, get over yourself, and move on to things that really matter, like love, grandchildren, and the terroir of a good cabernet. The only reason to give a speech is to change the world, but the world also will get along just fine without you – for a little while.
It’s up to you to prevent burnout. Let me know which tips work best for you – and what else you use to stay in top form with that I’ve missed. I’d love to hear your best renewal ritual – as long as it doesn’t involve a goat.
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