What About Second Impressions?

What About Second Impressions?

I posted last time about first impressions and the unconscious biases we all have.  And how it’s therefore important to become an intentional speaker – by which I mean a speaker who takes charge of not only the content of her speech, but also the unconscious dialogue with the audience. The idea is not to […]

Why We Need Conferences

Why We Need Conferences

Picture a worker in a cubicle. Gray walls, gray chair, gray computer. Gray hum of background noise all around. When she picks up the phone, the way in which the voice is processed over that instrument cuts out most of the emotion. That’s why telephone calls and webinars are so boring. No emotion. The rest […]

Body Language for Valentine’s Day

Body Language for Valentine’s Day

As most of us who are old enough to vote have learned, words and body language don’t always synch up.  When they do, the verbal message gets through, because it’s supported by the non-verbal one underneath, the emotional one.  When they don’t, the body language message is the one that people trust.  If you say […]

How to Reprogram Your Brain and Gut for Excellence

How to Reprogram Your Brain and Gut for Excellence

The human body is an assemblage of systems that have a surprising degree of autonomy from one another, and that are all busy managing various aspects of our mental and physical lives. Nonetheless, they do communicate with one another, and that’s why the human assemblage works pretty well most of the time. Except when we’re […]

Do Your Gut Feelings Help You as a Speaker?

Do Your Gut Feelings Help You as a Speaker?

The story goes that when George Soros, the hedge fund bazillionaire, was still a fund manager, he would monitor his backaches and use them as a sign that there was something wrong with his portfolio. What are gut feelings? Are they real or imagined? And for public speakers – should gut feelings guide your performance […]

How Posture Affects Public Speaking Success

How Posture Affects Public Speaking Success

Most of the research on posture and public speaking has focused on two aspects of body language that seem to offer opportunities for improvement with relatively little work. First of all, there’s all the study of what Amy Cuddy calls “power poses.” The idea is to stand up straight, or to take up more space […]

Why You Need to Be an Intentional Communicator

Why You Need to Be an Intentional Communicator

Most of us think we’re intentional about our communications, but we’re actually not – at least, not very often. The reason is that we spend a lot of time thinking consciously about what we’re trying to say, but we don’t often spend much time thinking about how we’re going to say it. We miss the […]

Beware the Unconscious Dialogue You’re Having with your Audience

Beware the Unconscious Dialogue You’re Having with your Audience

What really happens when people try to communicate with one another? Specifically, when one person gets up in front of lots of other people and tries to inspire, inform, motivate, teach, change, or lead them? The first thing that happens is something that you may never have thought about before. The audience starts an unconscious […]

How to Conquer Your Unconscious Fears

This is the final post in a series on putting your unconscious mind to work for you, rather than leaving the biggest part of your communications to chance – or letting your unconscious fears and memories hold you back. I am not a believer in that mumbo-jumbo from The Secret that says if you just […]

Authenticity or Charisma?

Somewhere between the twentieth and the twenty-first centuries, the general public became tired of hype and decided that it wanted authenticity instead. It’s the most important quality in leadership communications today. Don’t believe me? Think about it: with it, you can move people to action. Without it, you can’t even get a hearing. You’re in […]